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Why do so many relationships fall into monotony after a while, ending up like crumpled leaves hanging from a dead tree? Why is it so difficult to keep the juices flowing? Why does the momentum of the relationship fade away? Is it inevitable that after some years the initial freshness turns into devastating boredom?

Imagine a blossoming, appetizing, juicy red-and-yellow peach, and then see it transform into a dark-brown, wrinkled, dried-up prune. Where did the freshness go? Where did the juice go? Where did the life go? The envelope is still there, the outside still exists, but inside there is nothing left: no more life, no more pleasure, no more fun, no more love, only vinegar.

In the beginning of a relationship, the juices flowing through your body are boosted up by the attention and interest of that significant other. Everything looks great, you’re blossoming, even your body is “filled up” by the other’s attention for you. Attention is a powerful form of energy, and energy is what makes things run, move and flow. Energy is what makes things alive.

Without energy, there is no life. Without energy, there is only death.
Every romantic relationship contains the risk that you start depending on the energy provided by your other half, rather than sourcing your energy yourself. Reflect for a moment on this term: “your other half.” You need not depend on someone else to become a whole person. You can be complete by yourself. You don’t need an “other half” before you can be happy and productive. First learn to be a complete person by yourself. If you’re a woman, learn how to activate your masculine energy, and if you’re a man, activate your feminine energy. Only by balancing yourself and sharing your own completeness can you aspire to make love last forever.

When you depend too much on the energy of your spouse, you will feel the need to possess this person in order to fulfil your daily energy needs. When you’re not able to establish your own energy connection, you will feel the need to control the other in order to receive enough energy to get by. Can you imagine how tragic this is? You have to remain in control of the other person all of the time! One day he might start giving his energy to someone else; then what are you going to do? You would probably collapse, and this you can’t afford, so therefore you have to stay in control. To control is to possess, and in the process you are reducing the other to the level of an object. He or she is no longer seen as a person, but as a “thing to be controlled,” like a toy-car with remote control.

This is no way to live. This is anxiety. This is stress. Most of the time you feel anxious, because you never know exactly what the other is doing. What a waste of energy! If you are so completely focused on the behavior of others, you will never be able to move on with your own life. You are doomed to live a life of fear, trying to control other people, and be ever restless.

In the end you cannot control another person, and so this attitude doesn’t give any rest to your soul. You will be continually subjected to stress, anxiety, sleeplessness, fear, and anger. Every time you feel you are losing control, anger will get a hold of you and you will throw a tantrum in an attempt to gain back control.

What a miserable life! No relationship can withstand this kind of pressure, so it’s bound to collapse and explode in your face. You will end up alone.

Will you start this killing game all over again with a new victim? How to stop this attitude and create a love that lasts? You must concentrate on yourself rather than on the other. Yes, I know, this sounds like a paradox. But by focusing on YOUR mission on earth, on what is important for YOU, you will be filled with energy.

You need to first find out how you can be a complete person just by yourself. The only way to do this is to find out what your mission on earth is all about, what are your passions, why you are here, and then to focus on this all the time. You should set suitable goals for yourself and do everything to reach them. You need to stick to your own dreams, the ones you had BEFORE knowing this person with whom you are having a romantic relationship. You have to go back to the person YOU were BEFORE you met him or her. Stick to that person, stick to yourself, instead of sticking to you partner.

Be faithful to your own dreams. Only this way can you be loyal to your relationship! You cannot give what you don’t have. If you cannot be loyal to yourself, you cannot be loyal to your spouse. If you lose yourself in the relationship, you will loose the relationship. If you abandon your own dreams, the relationship will abandon you.

First and foremost you should focus on yourself. Your dreams, your goals, your truth. Somebody who really loves you will love you even more if you are being your true self. Someone who cannot love you when you follow your excitement is not worth being loved by you!

If your husband is angry with you because you take time to achieve your goals, then he is not supportive. If your wife is jealous because you have success and she doesn’t, then that is her problem.

Don’t lose yourself in the arms of the other but stick to yourself, and your love will last. Focus on your own mission, focus on the reason why YOU are here on earth, make your mission the first priority in your life, and you will be loved for WHO you are.

This is real love. Real love is supportive. Love yourself, love your dream, love your mission, love your life, and surely enough, a wonderful person will show up and love you even more. What you are able to give to yourself, you will get back thousandfold from the outside world. If you are already in the energy of love, by simply loving yourself, then you will attract love from outside into your life.

Make love last by loving yourself first.

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Let’s talk about the present; we don’t read so much as we did once. We prefer the PC instead of a quiet night by the fireplace with our friends, talking about the latest gossips or even playing a board game. When was the last time you played a game based on a real board game? You might answer me right back that you just had a game of Scrabble or Risk .

Now ask yourself, when did you last play a board game based on a PC game, hard thing to answer, isn’t it? That is because there were not any attempts to do this transfer from the virtual area to the real one - pawns, dice. But why did I bring up this issue you may ask? The answer is simple: I just wanted to underline the importance of a board game, through its accessibility and social character.

Playing the Monopoly board game is an easy thing to do: you take your board game and the rest of the set, gather a bunch of friends and start a hell of a game. It is a real game, you do not have to worry about your PC’s system, the speed of the game for multi players on the Internet or about losing time for searching player’s on the LAN. The reason that makes us choose a real board game as Monopoly is the social one.

It does not matter how advanced a PC game has become, because spending time and having fun with your friends is much more appealing, no matter how much you try to deny it. It is all about the pleasure of playing Monopoly, interacting with your friends & family, spending quality time together & creating memories.

Playing Monopoly can also be a perfect way to build learning skills with your children. Parents become more and more interested in the purchase of educational games for their children as playing is a very important trait for a child. Learning through a game is a reality & Monopoly is a modern game, educational and interesting which can also teach our children the basics of business life. They can buy properties & they can negotiate taxes.

All of these features can develop the qualities of a future business career in your child. Just by playing Monopoly they can learn important social skills such as communication, sharing, patience & enjoying interaction with each other .

Playing Monopoly is a captivating adventure as the longest Monopoly game ever played was 1,680 hours long, can you believe that? that’s equivalent to 70 whole days. Well, that’s Monopoly for you!

Miles Jacobs recommends the Monopoly Tycoon Site which will provide you with comprehensive information on all aspects of the game of Monopoly. To find articles, tips and free advice check out the site here:
http://www.monopolytycoonsite.com

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Amaterasu, the brave adventurer from the widely popular and standard setting Okami game, has just entered an area with a tree, a dark looking tree without further use than being just a tree or is it? Looking closer you realize there is a ribbon tied around it and your gamer instincts tells you that ribbon has a meaning - but what on earth could it be?

You try different approaches, Amaterasu tries all the powers he have and still you just stand there beside a dark tree with no clue as how to move on in the game.

Would you stop playing? No. You would resort to one of the very popular “game cheat sites”. The word cheat would put off many who do not really know what these sites are about. Sure can be certain to find real cheats there, in the form of special codes that you can enter with special game console peripherals.

But for the most part people come to these sites in search of Guides and Tutorials. It works like this; say you are playing a Zelda game and Link, the hero, is stuck in a fire temple room. You have tried for three hours and simply can not find out how to move that blasted obstacle blocking your way.

Enter the Cheat site, and you search for the game you are playing. Great, you find 5 different tutorials so you enter the first one, search within the document to find “Fire temple” and you read, scroll, read and recognize every step you have taken within the temple and WHAM - it hits you in the face, all you needed was to light the torches and then use the mirror spell to remove the block - why on earth didn’t you think of that? (Or why on earth did Miyamoto think of that, might be a sound question).

So you remove the obstacle and can keep playing, leaving the cheat/guide site and try to figure out the rest of the way in the game for yourself without outside help. Until you confront that “Unbeatable” boss

Is it cheating? That’s really up to each person to decide. Personally I don’t consider getting outside help now and then cheating. Putting in codes for unlimited life, unlimited ammo etc on the other hand, yes, that’s what we call cheating.

Trendspotting Markus Wahlgren picks up what he finds interesting in today’s trends, Game cheats, is one example. Many other subjects can be found at his blog; Independent Views.

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